Mystery Date

I got a date tonight and it is different this time since I don't have a car. That means he has to come over and pick me up for dinner.

It's a bit old fashioned and kinda cool. I mean, he has to come up to my door, knock on it, say hello and escort me to his car. That hasn't happened to me since high school...maybe college. Certainly not a first date in my adult life. Today it is rare that a person comes over to pick you up for an evening out on a first date.

Since this is a new experience I decided to reach out to some of my girlfriends to ask for their advice on preparing for a first date who was picking you up. Karen Sevenoff (www.karensevenoff.com) is my closest girlfriend and she dates a lot. She's dated multiple guys at once and I honestly don't know how she does it but she's recently slimmed down to one guy. I think she should be careful because I've learned my lesson and have stopped playing with men's hearts. They are too fragile. And so is mine.

I asked Karen how clean I should make the house. I mean, if I keep it kinda messy I am less inclined to invite him in if we really hit it off. Karen said she is fully prepared to marry the man on the first date and packs her purse accordingly.

"What?" I said. "You are ready to marry him before you meet him for dinner?"

"Oh yeah." She goes. "I usually bring my passport too. I am ready for anything."

"Like what?" I ask. "Sex? Then what?"

"Oh, certainly sex. I bring everything with me that I might need in a pinch." She said.

"Spill it. What's in your purse?" I say.

"Well, the obvious...tooth brush, condoms, and then some of those other things you really don't like to be with out." She continues, "Perfume, massage oil, poetry, protein shake."

"You bring shakes with you? Not protein bars?" I asked.

"Well, the shakes are so much quicker to absorb and you might be working up a sweat."

True. I thought. Good point. But seriously! Karen! What the fuck!

She is such a slut!

I don't know...maybe it is just me but I don't think there are any circumstances that I would sleep with someone on the first date. And yes, I am sure there was a time recently when I would have considered otherwise...but today? Now? At this moment? No.

I know that is a backwards way of being, but the truth is...I've had a hell of a year and I'll be damned if I am going to consciously do anything to fuck up what I have now...and while I love men and all and am so infatuated with the idea of being in partnership with someone...I'm leaving town in probably 6 weeks or less and I don't know when I'm coming back. So...

Who knows. Now I might consider other possibilities.

Hard to say....

His ad was funny, and he sent a nice photo.

Either way I am sure we'll have a good time and I'm looking forward to meeting him and dinner at Cafe Maxx. They have beautiful food and an incredible wine list. It will nice to be out and about.

Wish me luck!

L.