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Something has changed with the Beautiful Karen Sevenoff (www.karensevenoff.com) . She's had a huge shift in her heart and she is looking at her actions and involvement with Mr. Sculley. She is accepting that perhaps she reentered this relationship for all the wrong reasons. She's noticed that she feels it is her obligation to be the 'perfect wife' while in his presence. I'm so glad that she's discovered that this is a role she is playing and it doesn't fit her very well. A lot of women step into that role...men too I imagine, but I haven't spoken to any men about it so I'll only speak on behalf of the women.

I know I've played that role; not behaving as who I am but as an idea of what the other person wants me to be or how I think I should be in a relationship. It's tricky and I did it unconsciously. I'm very glad that it didn't last long and I haven't had a need to repeat the performance.

Karen's heart was recently broken by Dr. Dave, a psychiatrist who is addicted to porn (he admits that) and he was seeing another woman for a couple of years who was just about to move in with him and he became involved with Karen...and Karen is kinda like me...not regular. Not at all! Know what I mean?

So here Dr. Dave is, having this traditional relationship with Gayle and Karen on the side and his addiction to porn plus one of his patients is Sam the farmer. Anne, I met Sam and I swear I found your soulmate when I met him. He's a big strapping organic farmer in CT and Karen was involved with him for a while. She messed him up good as we both are guilty of fucking with men's minds and so now Sam is seeing a psychiatrist who just happens to be Dr. Dave. The day Dr. Dave realized he was screwing the woman that he had been discussing with Sam the farmer...well...I thought it was quite interesting...and fascinating to see what Dr. Dave did (or didn't do) with that knowledge.

NOTE ABOUT PORN: I have some really AWESOME theories why men become addicted to porn. Quite frankly, I don't even believe it is an addiction, but I don't want to start that discussion until Anne is out of ICU, so I'm gonna let it slip by today...but remind me, okay? It's really a good theory!

It's kinda hard to keep Karen as second anything. She is not traditional. She has free will and knows how to use it. She is quite outspoken and will just show up where she wants to be...and as you can imagine, there were some problems. Especially when there are lies involved. Karen and I are both pretty big on honesty....especially where men are concerned.

To help Dr. Dave, she did a few things she's not proud of and if she hadn't taken action the Dr. Dave would still be in denial that they even had a relationship at all and Gayle would not know that her future husband was lying and screwing around on her. Karen is in love with Dr. Dave and that's what happens when you're in love. Your mind takes a vacation and the other parts of your body take over...your gut, your heart, your groin. Crazy action happens that you have no idea where it comes from. Who knows who or what is making the decisions when you are in love? Karen took action to help Dr. Dave pull his head out of his own ass. Her methods were just like her, untraditional and some people didn't have as sweet a Christmas as they thought they would have had, but he did pull his head out of his ass. So, kudos sister!

He is now in therapy with Gayle and they will probably move forward towards a traditional relationship and marriage and all of this and that and this and that and this and that....and Karen is accepting this fate albeit, heartbroken. They have ended their affair but still speak daily. I don't know if this is helping her move on but it is her choice and I do not question her judgment. She knows what's right for her and if she doesn't she'll ask my opinion and I'll tell her.

Karen has high frequency needs so she immediately returned to Mr. Sculley.

He's a good man except for all that Jagermeister in the morning. He has such potential for Karen's dream of becoming a Connecticut Housewife and the work he's done politically and in broadcasting is pretty awesome. It's impressive to see him use his liberal power wisely and quite a turn on, even for me who hates political discussions and involvement. I feel too helpless and angry when discussing politics so I avoid it, but Karen is good at it and he is good for her on that level.

But she has seen how she isn't being fair to herself or Mr. Sculley...especially since he's still drinking and going to AA meetings. I guess a lot of people do that which I cannot judge since I am not walking in their shoes. I gotta tell ya, I've been to a couple of AA meetings myself and it would probably help if you were fucked up on something....listening to all those boring stories about being drunk and all? Kind of a downer, know what I mean...and all that cigarette smoke. That's the part I hate. And why can't they brew a decent cup of coffee?

I am all for AA...don't get me wrong.

The point is that Karen is really looking at what she is doing and how she is working....and why she wants to stay in CT.

So yesterday I was telling her that once I'm done with Seattle I was thinking about going into the desert but with the gas prices and all I wasn't sure if that's what I wanted to do plus I really am loving not having a car...

I started reviewing some of my fantasizes about my life. I can dream big and I know how to make them happen. One of my dreams has to move to Brooklyn NY for a year or so and study physics with Michau Kaku at City College NYC...audit only...no math for me. So I went on to Craigslist in NYC yesterday and found some apartments/rooms for rent for about $800/mo. Pretty damned cheap for NYC.

When Karen called I told her about me thinking about not heading to the desert but going to NYC for a little while before returning to Miami...plus, it'd be a good way for me to miss the hurricane season...especially Aug-Oct. A terrible time to be in Florida...really. I will never forget Katrina, Rita and Wilma...never.

Karen said she had been thinking about moving back to NYC too. Pretty cool...so much easier to find a place with another and I have friends there already...the Beautiful Carolyn....whom I have not introduced you too, but Anne you remember her from Coastal Kitchen? Remember? She is so beautiful, like a Greek Goddess...her beauty is classic and timeless but think Isabella Rossalini or Grace Kelly...breath-taking. Carolyn is the wine buyer for a very upscale raw restaurant in the city and she is writing everyday working on getting published. She's a good sister for me to hang with, especially since she's offered to share my work with a couple of her agent friends.


Then there is the very talented Steve McClure. His courage in art is also inspirational to me....my favorite work of his right now is called "Expedition to the Arctic Circle"...not that I would pick a favorite of any artists work, but if I had the cash that'd be the piece I'd buy.

Please check out Steve's work:

www.mentiri.com

He is brilliant and prolific. I mean it...Steve is really brilliant...the only man who never backed down over dinner and quantum physics. God he's a smartie and he is such a good friend. I love how he works small and in series of paintings. I noticed that he's added a few pieces with intense colors. He usually works in ink and watercolors but sticking to browns and blacks...plus the men in the overcoats are common themes in his work. It really is hard for me to discuss his work since it invokes such emotions in me...hard to describe.

He definitely needs at least a one hour service at the Church of Art. Maybe Karen and I can start it in NYC first? I know a few people we could invite and I'm sure Steve wouldn't mind people sitting in silence studying his work...a good thought.

I was painting last night on the jacket...I put it down for a little while and am back at it. I painted the third phrase on it: "What if all this time I thought I was a spoon when really I'm a fork?" And I was thinking about what good Karen and I could do in NY.

We gave out free advice in Seattle together and it was a blast. We had a following and had we not been drinking so much red wine, we probably wouldn't have missed the reporters who came to interview us that one day we missed in August. When Karen and I team up we are hilarious and we always disagree on methods people should take or actions but our outcomes are identical. So you get two points of view when you ask us our opinion and with her performance background...well, she gives me courage.

Karen and I have worked in partnership before and I swear I'll talk about the book soon...I'm just not ready today...

We've discussed working on a second book together called:

SEX
MONEY
DIET

Yes, it is designed to sell a lot of copies and we know how to do it. We've also got notes and an outline plus I'd like to do a bunch of podcasts. I was blessed with a good radio voice, just like my sisters, and I'd like to use it once in my lifetime. And we're so funny that it has some serious potential. Karen really wants one of her projects to come to reality and she may believe me now that I know how to make that happen.

It's funny, I've put together 10 restaurants/retail establishments in 5 years and specialize in creating business systems plus I created a new business concept for a multi-million dollar operation and still I doubt my skill set. I hope to be done with that bit of insecurity soon.

I must say, sitting with the idea of me relocating to NYC after Seattle makes me feel really good. It's a nice thought and seems realistic and something I've always wanted to do...so I'm going to stay here thinking about the future for a little while and allowing that possibility to be.

In the meantime, I must take trains to Miami today and hope that I don't get stuck on any tracks with rolling power outages. And if I do, I'm sure I'll meet someone interesting or find something to write about.

So much love...
Linda